- Stuffy rules that take the fun out everything.
- Something which only snobs care about.
- The way people behave in Jane Austen novels (and not since).
- What little old ladies do over tea and crumpets.
- Boring, irritating, intrusive, rigid, arbitrary rules.
- Meaningless prescriptions that cramp personal style.
- Formal manners that have no relevance in the relaxed modern world.
- Hyacinth versus Onslow.
And the list goes on.
Aunt Dandelion would like to offer a different perspective. Etiquette really is:
- Common-sense ways of behaving in public that preserve the comfort and dignity of each individual.
- A framework for throwing parties and other gatherings that run smoothly and on time, and keep guests happy.
- An attitude of kindness and charity towards others.
- Essential information for anyone who aspires to get ahead in business, society and the community at large.
- A way of attracting friends and potential intimates with decency and charm.
- The gift of a sense of confidence when encountering people of any social or financial stratum, however high, low, or unfamiliar.
- Making peace.
- A sure way out of frat-boy slobbishness, cat-girl cliquishness, wall-flower shyness, Mad-Man brusqueness, and all the other defenses behind which insecure people hide.
Etiquette is the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.
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